I often get asked for book recommendations from newly pregnant women – I can only assume it’s because they’ve already read every nook and cranny of Pregnant Chicken (cough).
I actually read quite a few books the first time around and I didn’t like many of them (I was lucky to read a cereal box the second time). I found they were either scary, patronizing or both, and none of them made me feel more prepared for the arrival of my son. Instead, they made me feel completely incompetent and overwhelmed at my inevitable failure as a mother.
So I decided to ask you guys what you thought and you came up with some great ones! I’ve broken them down into groups starting with pregnancy books, and moving on down the timeline. Take a peek and let us know what we should add!
Here are the best books to read when you’re expecting a baby:
“I Am Woman!” Books
One of my biggest regrets is that I didn’t read more birth books. I was going to have a hospital birth and was going to get my epidural as soon as humanly possible so I figured that I didn’t need to read up on this hippy stuff. Well, if you run a pregnancy website for a while, you really get to see how fear based this industry is and many of the magazine headlines and website teasers are crafted to get your attention and often scare the shit out of you.
Books like these give you the big picture. These are the books that remind you that women have been giving birth for a long, damn time and our bodies are set up to deliver a baby. Regardless of what your birth plan is, they are a good read.
If you’ve never heard of Ina May Gaskin, she’s the Obi Wan of midwifery (I love that word). This lady knows her stuff and has been bringing babies into the world for over 30 years. It’s one of the quintessential pregnancy books out there.
“Reading this book will make you feel confident about your body’s ability to give birth, as well as positive and excited about the birth experience.”
Birthing from Within
As a designer, the cover of this book gives me diarrhea. As a woman, this book gives me a feeling of real control and empowerment.
“I recommend this book to any expectant mother, no matter what type of birth she intends to have. “Birthing from Within” helps you get in touch with yourself and your expectations, fears, and hopes to allow you to make the birth of your child a very personal and soulful experience.”
Birth Without Fear
January Harshe is a mother of six and knows how different each mom’s birth and postpartum experiences can be. This book is all about empowering women to have a voice in their birth and postpartum story, and stresses the importance of respecting everyone’s journey, regardless of what it looks like.
“January Harshe’s fantastic “you do you boo” attitude is in every single sentence. It’s all about deciding for yourself what YOU want, and how to make sure you get the options, support, and respect you deserve.”
“Nitty Gritty” Books
The majority of books I read when I was pregnant was this type. I wanted to know all the little details because I thought I would feel more prepared when I knew all the facts.
They are great for getting a crash course in birth without having to become an OBGYN, but a word of warning, these books become dated fast (that probably says something too) so if someone gives a book that is over five years old, chances are a portion of it is no longer applicable.
Mayo Clinic Guide to a Healthy Pregnancy
The Mayo Clinic has always been a reliable source for information and this sounds like it’s a pretty good read and many women preferred this book to the “What to Expect” series.
“It is written by trustworthy professionals in clear yet -professional- language, it provides information on “pregnancy, childbirth and your newborn”…”
The Baby Book, Revised Edition: Everything You Need to Know About Your Baby from Birth to Age Two
I’ve always been a big fan of Dr. Sears. Not just because of his hippy leanings, but because of his trust-your-gut philosophy.
“This is such a great reference, but the best advice in the whole book is that what works for you and your family is right for your child.”
This is another area where I wish I’d really knew my shit before giving birth. I just assumed that breastfeeding would be all easy peasy and I just needed to get the hang of it. Well, sort of. Breastfeeding can be tricky and to add to that pressure, you have a baby that has to eat NOW all the time.
Breastfeeding issues are one of the most popular questions I get, so going in armed with some knowledge is never a bad thing and can really help with a 2 am crisis moment.
The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding
This book is written by the La Leche League so it’s going to be pretty pro-boob to say the least, but this is a community that has supported breastfeeding moms and babies for years so they know where the stumbling blocks might be.
“I’m not bf’ing yet, but as an expectant mother I wanted to get some info before trying to deal with it once the baby’s here. The book has made me feel very confident. It has all the info you need.”
Bottled Up: How The Way We Feed Babies Has Come To Define Motherhood, And Why It Shouldn’t
As many new moms with breastfeeding intentions will tell you, that shit just doesn’t always go as planned. Unfortunately, many women are left feeling overwhelmed, guilty and ashamed when breastfeeding efforts get thwarted at every turn. Part memoir, part facts and science, this book aims to remind us that there is no one-size-fits-all strategy to feeding our babies.
LACTIVATE! A User’s Guide to Breastfeeding
Got questions about breastfeeding? Of course you do. From how-tos to FAQs, this book has a little (actually, a lot) of everything to help you along on the journey of breastfeeding. Get answers to your questions in a judgment-free zone (with handy illustrations!) without having to wait for the next visit to your doctor or lactation specialist.
“I’ve read a lot of breastfeeding books; this is the first one that is quick, concise, succinct AND informational with scientific support. I love the diagnostics codes – they give you the problem, reasons it might be occurring, and ways to fix the situation based upon science. This is what you want when you’re struggling, frustrated, exhausted”.
Pregnancy Fact Books
Pregnant women are bombarded by lists of no-nos and “Top 10 Things a Pregnant Woman Should NEVER Do!” because click-bait sells, but if you really want to arm yourself with the facts and risks, these books are awesome.
The Panic-Free Pregnancy
I love that this doctor has actually stepped up rather than hiding behind all the “just to be on the safe side” crap. Some people criticize him for being too lax about certain topics, but you’re a big girl and know what you’re comfortable with doing and what you’re not. This pregnancy book provides a refreshing shift in perspective.
“I’m about to be a second-time mommy and I learned an awful lot from this book and found that I avoided sushi for no reason during my last pregnancy! that will not be happening this time around!”
Another pregnancy book that’s backed up with facts rather than just-to-be-on-the-safe-side myths. I love this book and recommend it to everyone.
“A must-read for any pregnant (or trying to get pregnant) person who wants an advice book that’s devoid of preachy rules, but full of information that will enable you to make your own decisions.”
Debunking the Bump:
This sucker is filled with practical, actionable recommendations and clear explanations of risks and trade-offs. I love that the author is a numbers freak. This book is truly fascinating.
“This book is necessary. She breaks down the real dangers and gives a realistic assessment of risk. I wish I had this before I was ever pregnant. Even now, it’s helping me live a healthier, less paranoid, life.”
If you read this site, clearly you are a funny aficionado a have a finely tuned sense of wit and charm – I mean c’mon. So, I’m sure you’ll appreciate a little taste of humor in these pregnancy books because, as my accountant says, “If you can’t take a joke, don’t have kids.”
The Big Fat Activity Book for Pregnant People
There comes a point in every pregnancy where you can no longer move either because it physically hurts, or because you just can’t be bothered anymore. Either way, if you happen to get bored while you’re down there, this book is full of fun and hilarious activities to pass the time. There are word finds on topics like bad baby names, lists (like things every pregnant woman ever has asked her OB) coloring pages and quizzes (like Which $1500 stroller is Different?). If you’re trying to induce labor, this book’ll probably have you laughing so hard, the baby will shoot straight out and across the room.
“This book has given my pregnant wife something lighthearted and fun to do while she’s stuck at home. I catch her giggling as she completed the puzzles and questionnaires.”
Welcome to the Club
Everybody’s seen the traditional milestone books that help to keep track of baby’s first smile and baby’s first steps. This book helps to immortalize the ones that everyone experiences, but nobody really thinks to record (or likes to admit), like the first time the baby rolls off of the bed. Not only is it hilarious, but it’s also a great tool to reassure you that there are a crapload of us out there who have also accidentally taught our babies to say fuck.
“As new parents, we have experienced some of these and will no doubt experience the rest. Very funny and touching. A good, relaxing, and refreshing couple hour read. Uplifting for our sleep deprived hearts and minds.”
How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids
Having a baby can be tough on your marriage. Jancee Dunn shares her personal experience with the frustration and resentment that can come along with shouldering outdated family patterns (i.e. expecting the mother to assume a lot of the traditional household chores and childcare duties while dad gets off the hook.) Her book includes the latest relationship research, input from couples’ and sex therapists, fellow parents, and even an FBI hostage negotiator to help you figure out how to restore peace (and love) into your marriage after baby. Spoiler alert: it can be done!
“This book is full of little gems of advice and insight. From division of labor in the home, raising the kids, organization, money, to sex. I found many of the author’s stories relatable and humorous. I think the book, at best, gave me useful strategies I can implement in my own life, and at least, gave me validation that I’m not alone in these struggles.”
I had all this time read pregnancy books when I was pregnant, but no time to read baby books when I had a baby (go figure). Now the trouble with reading baby books is that, while you may have the time, you don’t have a baby. That makes things tricky because the laws of nature ensure that whatever theories you have on babies often go out the window once you have one. I actually read a sleep book when I was pregnant and was all armed with my “shush pat” techniques, but it all went down the tubes when he was born because he wasn’t a “shush pat” kid. I would treat these books as little “seed planters” – when the issue arises you’ll remember you read something about that and go back and look it up. Like breastfeeding, sleep questions dominate the questions I get, so you may as well wade in now if you have the time.
The Happiest Baby on the Block
If you’ve read my What You Need to Know About Newborns post, then you’ve got a good idea of what this book is about. It kind of decodes the reasons babies cry, which is worth its weight in gold in those first few months. Some say it’s a little too wordy – a beefed up 10 page pamphlet to justify the cost of a book – but what are ya gonna do.
“I was skeptical, but these methods really do work! Would make a fantastic baby shower gift and every new parent should read this.”
The Baby Owner’s Manual
At first glance, this seems like a bit of a gag gift, but it really is an amazing book. I had it with my first son and loved it.
It’s easy and quick to fill out and it will save your bacon if you have more than one child because you can look back to see when baby number one rolled over when you’re hanging out with baby number two – you think you’ll remember but you don’t.
“Although this book gives you the same info a lot of others do, this one is shorter and easy to read. Plus the charts and the other fill-in pages I the back are nice if you want to keep track of things.”
Cribsheet: A Data-Driven Guide to Better, More Relaxed Parenting, from Birth to Preschool
One of the best things about parenthood is that for every piece of advice you’ll receive, someone will have at least three reasons to tell you why it’s wrong. Oh wait. That’s the worst part of parenting. Luckily, Emily Oster has taken on the legwork to find data and statistics to debunk many of the myths you’ll hear about important parenting stuff like breastfeeding, sleep training, potty training, language acquisition and more.
“Cribsheet discusses one topic at a time, summarizing the available research and suggesting some factors to consider in personal decision making. It isn’t about telling you what you should do, more of a guide to how to go about making your decisions.”
Bringing Up Bébé
Apparently, the children in France are incredibly well-behaved. We’re talking sleeping through the night after a couple months, eating food my kid would instantly spit out if it ever made it past his lips, and entertaining themselves quietly while their parents do grownup shit kind of well-behaved. When the author noticed these majestic behaviors in French children, she started taking notes on why they were so angelic so she could bring some tips back to us desperate souls on the other side of the ocean.
“This is an excellent resource for those looking to raise their child in a more conscious way. It includes specific examples, stories, and steps you can take for helping your child sleep through the night, eat a variety of vegetables, play independently at the playground, show good manners, and more. The book is written in an upbeat and witty manner, making it very interesting to read.”
Books for Partners
The pregnancy and birth journey can be a mysterious one when you’re not the one growing the baby. Give your partner something to do while you’re busy baby making and hand them a book to bring them into the fold and be a more involved part of those 9 months and beyond.
The Birth Partner
This handy-dandy manual covers pretty much everything your partner needs to know to help you out during labor and delivery, including how to tell when labor’s begun, ways to help ease labor pain, and how to actually be helpful during labor. There’s also info about breastfeeding, labor care, c-sections, and more.
“I loved the informative style – no personal reflections and crunchy stories, just actual hands on information about normal vaginal birth, possible complications, medications, and interventions. I appreciated suggestions of how to handle each stage of labor for a birth partner and possible emergency actions. I read most of the book myself and made my husband read the part about active labor all the way until delivery, and he felt like he knew what to expect after that.”
We’re Pregnant! The First Time Dad’s Pregnancy Handbook
In this dad-centric pregnancy book, you can track weekly milestones and pregnancy vitals, learn important questions to ask, help set family goals, and check out newborn how-tos that’ll leave you feeling confident for when baby makes their grand entrance into the world.
“What my husband and I love most about this book is that it doesn’t have a sexist overtone. It’s not obnoxiously stereotypical like other “dad-to-be” books in that it doesn’t assume that every man is a slack-jaw, knuckle-dragging idiot. It’s smart and witty. The tone is generally, ‘Look, here’s what’s going on and why. It’s going to be scary and fun and you’ll do great. Just step up, dude.’”
If you’ve got a high-risk pregnancy or are planning to have a C-Section, reading up on the subject may help to put your mind at ease when the big day comes.
The Essential C-Section Guide
Whether you’re planning to have a C-Section or not, the idea can seem a little daunting if you aren’t aware of what’s involved. This book covers the meat of what you need to know about the surgery, recovery, and considerations for future pregnancies and deliveries.
Double the pleasure, double the fun! It’s the statement of Doublemint Gum and twin pregnancies (I think). If twin parents don’t run in your circle it can be hard to find valuable advice on pregnancy and parenting of two littles at once. Finding a great twin resource can be invaluable in those first days (and let’s be honest – probably those first years) of parenthood.
What to Do When You’re Having Two: The Twins Survival Guide from Pregnancy Through the First Year
Natalie Diaz is the director of the Manhattan Twins Club and the creator of Twinversity – the #1 global resource and support network for twins. In other words, girlfriend knows her stuff. Diaz has answers to all of your questions, plus the ones you never even thought to ask
“It’s my How To Manual as I have navigated this pregnancy and prepare for our twins birth. What’s also great is it is an intro in a very active web group where I scour for answers to the new questions that arise daily. I highly recommend the book and getting hooked into Twiniversity”.
You Can Two: The Essential Twins Preparation Guide
If your recent ultrasound results have left you with twice the questions, this book has tons of great resources, advice and encouragement from parents who’ve been there. It’s got practical tools like checklists, trackers and questions to ask, step-by step prep, and stories from twin parents that’ll remind you just how awesome it’s gonna be.